Warning: Homeschooling Could Free You from Adulting

Homeschooling your kids means less adulting for you

by Bonnie Harris Price

When you’re not adulting,  you probably have this homeschooling thing on lock, don’t you? Your children have a tidy schedule as well as great lessons. And if you really want to toot your own horn, you can probably squeeze in a little afternoon delight.

Oops, TMI?

All things considered, you’re probably somewhere in between feeling accomplished and feeling overwhelmed. During their outdoor time, you might find yourself watching Netflix on your phone. Don’t be embarrassed; I’m guilty of sneaking a peek while pretending to watch him go down the slide for the millionth time too.

Homeschooling vs. Public school

Do you think adulting would be easier if your area had better schools? By the same token, if they got rid of those ridiculous state tests you could sleep at night. If they hadn’t taken prayer out of school we wouldn’t be in this mess in the first place.

Stop beating yourself up for your decision to homeschool. Homeschooling isn’t a burden, it’s a privilege to be able to teach your kids especially now with all the technology available.

But Bonnie, I miss coffee with my girlfriends, my spin class, Sunday night football, yadda, yadda, yadda.

Yes, those things are fun, but Mom and Dad, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Homeschooling frees you from adulting.


Oh yes, in some ways homeschooling frees you from adulting. You see, the difference between your pals who send their kiddos to school and you is you create your own universe. You are the captain, emperor, and queen and king.

That means you run the show. And not just at home either; homeschooling has adult benefits as well. Take a look-see.

  • Tax breaks
  • Household expenses
  • Healthier Lifestyle
  • Exemptions
  • Adult Pass

Tax breaks

This is a tricky one, but one you can use to your advantage if you follow the rules. While you can’t write off any money you spent buying materials and supplies for your children’s education, you can write off materials that you donate once your child outgrows them. The money you spent on books, the whiteboard, the desk, can be donated to your local charities.

You can earn extra cash too!

  • start a tutoring service for other homeschoolers
  • Create a side business from home
  • Tax deductions for your home business

Household expenses

Here’s another biggie for you. The amount of money you spend on gas, groceries, PTA dues, fundraisers, uniforms, expensive clothing, and other stuff goes way down when your children leave public school. Thrift stores become your best friends and your children learn to love peanut butter and jelly again.

Homeschooling also brings out the creativity in parents. Used paper towel rolls, shoestrings from old sneakers, and lima beans with a side of Elmer’s Glue make cool rainmakers. A homeschool military family I met during the summer told me they saved hundreds of dollars on family vacations because they go in the offseason.

Yay, fewer crowds! More memories! No more financing vacations on credit cards!

Healthier Lifestyle

Moms and Dads, I can’t even explain how much healthier Keith eats when he’s home. Public schools are doing are a better job of keeping unhealthy food to a minimum, but what about allergies? It’s estimated 15 million people have food allergies. 

Keith is allergic to cow’s milk and soy yet the little devil managed to score ice cream at school. By the way, his allergy isn’t life-threatening, however, I break out in my Snoopy dance when I don’t have to fight with him about what the other kids get to eat.


Here’s a couple of exemptions I didn’t find out about until today. I do advise you check with your state or county first. Parents with children under age 12 in Bexar County may be exempt from jury duty.

Whooooooo-hoooooooo! Six years no jury duty!

Want a bonus, homeschool Moms, and Dads? Again check with your state, as long as my son is homeschooled, he is exempt from taking that God awful STAAR test. This standardized test has been up for debate for years and was almost dismissed in the state capital.

In Texas, if a child fails this test, the child fails for the year, regardless if they’re passing their classes. Side note: this is how jails are built because children who fail are more likely to commit crimes as adults. 

Adult Pass

Me, Big Keith, Little Keith at Retama Race Park

Finally, I saved the best for last Mom and Dads. Homeschooling your children means from time to time, you get a pass. With this in mind, you can get silly, take a break when you need it, and be a real person.

On the contrary, this isn’t an excuse to be lazy and do whatever; you have responsibilities. The bigger picture is, you get to be creative. 

To sum it up, jump on the trampoline with your kids at recess. Teach them life skills they can actually use in the long run, like cooking, cleaning, and simple home repair. You can make learning fun and have fun doing it.

How about you?

Are you struggling with homeschooling your child? Do you think strict routines are the only way to teach? Do you know some fun ways to keep your interested in learning? I’d love to read your comments.

I also like to read your stories. If you’re interested in sharing your homeschooling story with other readers, click on The No Judgment Zone page to send me an email. I’d love to post your story.

Until then, remember all children are created extraordinary!

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3 Television Apps Your Homeschooler Should Use

Television can be useful for homeschool

All television isn’t bad

Television for children has changed over the last forty years. First, it was a trusty babysitter, but now, it’s public enemy number one. As a result of trying to give our kids more than what we had, our children have twenty-four-hour access to things we didn’t know about until adulthood.

Parental controls, maturity ratings, and timers make it a little easier to manage what they watch. Consequently, if your child has that one friend with the “cool” parents, you’re in for a tense conversation about why he can’t visit Billy’s house anymore.

But don’t despair fellow parental units, all TV isn’t bad. In spite of Billy’s parents, you can make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear with a little research. For example, if I were Billy’s mom, I’d say something like ‘Make TV your —–!’


While we will never return to our golden television days when Mr. Rogers taught us kindness, patience, and tolerance, TV can still be useful. If you own a Firestick, Roku, or have access to YouTube and other useful apps, you can include television into your homeschooling.

Seriously, there is a Facebook group for Christian homeschooling! If you think television can’t teach your kids anything, here are some reasons why you may want to use television.

  • Watching a lesson is great for visual learners
  • Learning from TV is fun
  • Letting someone else teach helps you

Examples of great teaching from television

Jiminy Crickets

Television history
A golden age of Television favorite

Even though our kids will never know what an encyclopedia is, Jiminy taught millions of youngsters how to spell it through song!

Fat Albert

Television learning
Saturday morning television rocked!

Children of color saw characters they could relate to managing everyday life with song.

Mister Rogers Neighborhood

Television Icon Mister Rogers
A beautiful spirit in television

There’s nothing else I can say about him other than he’s sorely missed. In the meantime, your youngsters can watch Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood that follows the same ideas he taught. Check out this video of Mr. Rogers explaining the value of PBS to Congress.

Okay, Bonnie, that was then, what about now?

Moms and Dads, there is good TV out there. You just have to know where to look. Here are some of my favorite apps I use to homeschool.



If they had this when I was young, I could’ve passed Algebra

Roku is not for just streaming your favorite TV shows. There are additional apps that are just for learning. iEducation.tv app has science experiments, stories, and even tutoring for subjects like trigonometry. Who knew?

Sesame Street, Jet Propulsion, Sid the Science Kid, and Baby First TV are also available on the PBS app on Roku and Firestick.

YouTube Bible Stories for Beginners

Television learning on YouTube
Who knew YouTube was good television?

This is a great channel I discovered on YouTube. My son has ADHD and can’t sit still in the church. The volunteers in children’s church want well-behaved kids so that doesn’t work for me. YouTube is a life saver.

These cartoon stories are age appropriate, have no foul language, and most videos are under 30 minutes. My son loves them plus he asks more about the bible.


Netflix television
You CAN learn from Netflix

Bet you didn’t know Netflix has wonderful documentaries for kids! There’s a huge selection and Netflix continues to add more every day. Check out the story of Garrett Morgan, the African-American inventor who created the traffic light and gas mask that firemen still use today.

Shows are separated by age for the kiddos. Netflix even has the full eight seasons of Magic School Bus. Be cautious when it comes to the wildlife shows as some may be a little too graphic for younger viewers.

These shows are free on your streaming devices. Nevertheless, be sure to check your local cable or the apps on your devices before you stream.

I’m not saying television is a substitute for teaching, but use it as an additional tool for learning. If you’re worried about becoming co-dependent, use the timer on your TV to stay on track. I also have a handy planner on my Free Stuff page if you need it.


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What about you? Are there any shows or TV apps you like to use for learning? Please comment and share below, I’d to share them with other readers.


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Why ADHD Kids Need Stories That Reflect Their Gifts

 Stories that scream, “This is so like me!”

When writing a novel a writer should create living people…Ernest Hemingway

In 2010, Percy Jackson and The Olympians: Lightning Thief debuted a major character with a disability. Logan Lerman portrays the troubled hero with ADHD. Percy’s disability is briefly mentioned by his friend and guardian Grover, humorously depicted by talented comedic actor Brandon T. Jackson.

There are two reasons I love this movie. Percy’s ADHD gives him awesome battle reflexes. Plus, I’m a sucker for campy films featuring mythical creatures.

I wish Hollywood would make more kid movies with flawed children, especially if they have ADHD or other learning disabilities. Netflix has an awesome show called Atypical. The main character is a high school teenager with high functioning autism trying to navigate through adulthood.

Why kids with ADHD need stories they can relate to

ADHD stories
Beautifully complicated stories

You’ve probably seen more kid movies than you want to. They’re either too silly or too cliche. You probably go to your happy place when Moana comes on the screen for the umpteenth time.

As a Mom or Dad, you don’t mind because you like spending time with your kids, but eventually, your adult mind starts to wonder. Have you ever asked yourself these questions?

stories for kids with ADHD
Did donkey have ADHD?
  • When Donkey made that popping sound with his mouth in Shrek 2 was it boredom or ADHD?
  • Was Lord Farquar obsessed with cleanliness in Duloc or did he have OCD?
  • Could anger management therapy and medication helped Shrek’s depression?

Forgive me, but I want to have a sense of humor about this.


Since Percy Jackson, I haven’t seen any characters with ADHD. I know there are books out there, but they aren’t promoted like they should be. 30% of kids in the United States have ADHD, but the market to depict characters who use ADHD as a gift is nonexistent.

This is why I want to create stories starring a child with ADHD moving through everyday life. First of all, everyone knows ADHD places some serious limitations in social and learning environments, yet no one writes stories about the challenges for ADHD kids in everyday life.

Parents, you know ADHD can turn a quick trip to the grocery store into a nightmare. ADHD can make you go to church by podcast. It can make you hide in the closet on a really bad day.

But what about the child? What’s going on in his brain? Can we take the ADHD lemon and make it out of lemonade and therefore make it fun to read?

I’m going to give it my best shot!

Hence, I’m channeling my inner Dr. Seuss, our love for interesting facts that no one cares about, and introducing my son to the world as I see him, I wrote my first e-book. I Took My ADHD to the Dentist is a book about the day in the life of my six-year-old son with ADHD.


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I wanted to give other kids like him a voice and the let the world know how awesome he is.  If you have a young child or grandchild with ADHD, I believe this will be a great gift for him or her. And it’s available for only $2.99 at Amazon and on Kindle 99 cents!


After you purchase and read the book, I invite you to leave your comments here or on the Amazon website. Thank you in advance.




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Questions That Feed Your Fear of Homeschooling

Questions you SHOULD’NT be asking yourself


Questions about tragedy
Questions after tragedy strikes


In recent light of events that took place minutes away from my home, I’m going to raise some questions that may make others uncomfortable. It isn’t my intent to lay blame or judge, it just made me wonder.  Are homeschooled kids like Mark Anthony Conditt making the rest of our children look bad?

Public education and other factors don’t paint a pretty picture of homeschooling. Labeling homeschool kids as socially inept or weird made Lindsey Lohan a star. Remember that line from Mean Girls?


“You’re just a homeschool jungle freak that is a less hot version of me.”


I have so many questions about Mark. What was his lifestyle like; did he have any friends; did he like pizza? The most important question is what was he taught about compassion.

Mark delivered four bombs since March 2 targeting black people in Austin neighborhoods. He delivered his last bomb at a local FedEx in Schertz, TX, less than five miles from my home.

You read about these things happening in other cities. We see actors portraying terrorists building sophisticated bombs. I didn’t expect it to happen here in my quiet little suburb, but it did.

Since then, any packages, even if I’m expecting them are delivered to the reception desk. I find myself leery of people who look at me for longer than two seconds because I’m black. My fears have even lead me to question my son’s emotional future.

Mark is not the only homeschooled child that has done terrible things. This recent event not only paints an unfair label of homeschooling but deep down inside me there is this burning question.

Will my son turn out like him?

Questions about social skills

My boy is stubborn. He doesn’t like to sit still. Trying to get him to stay on task is like pulling teeth.

The ADHD is a huge factor. Focalin doesn’t work as well as it should. San Antonio has limited resources for children with behavior problems.

I removed him from school because he was labeled as a bully. He was asked to leave two daycares because he was unmanageable. My husband can’t help out as much as I need him to.

Recipe for disaster!

On a deeper level though, I do feel a twinge of optimism. I connect with many online ADHD support groups which give me hope each time I read a post. My son is destined for greatness even if I don’t know what that is yet.

But let’s be honest, some days I have my doubts and I know you do too. So take a deep breath Moms and Dads, we’re going to be okay. Here are some answers to those questions that raise doubts about homeschooling.

Who will my child become if I continue to homeschool?

Am I hurting my child by homeschooling?

Your child has their own path. We don’t get to choose which path that will be. We can only guide them in the right direction.

Stop worrying about the outcome. There’s no way to predict the future. Just know you’re doing everything you can to raise emotionally healthy kids.

What if my child isn’t able to compete in the real world?

Questions about homeschool and employment
Will he ever get a real job?

Even if you send your child to public school there’s a good chance he won’t be ready once he graduates. Thanks to texting my soon to be twenty-two-year-old daughter can’t address an envelope!

I used to think my daughter was lying to me when she didn’t bring home textbooks. It still shocks me to find out cursive writing and recess aren’t a part of school curriculum.

In my opinion, kids can’t compete in the real world now.  And remember that Algebra that we could use in real life? When was the last time you and the mechanic had a long talk about trigonometry?

Where’s the nearest public school?

Public school questions
Quick, point me to the nearest public school?

I’m not downing public schools, but because of recent events, they’re no safer there either. If you recall Columbine, those two students built bombs at home to take to school to kill other people. In other words, bad behavior can be learned anywhere.

Also, the one thing no one has discussed is Mark’s mental health which I’m sure had a pivotal role in his actions.

Will my child ever catch up?

Questions about learning pace
Does homeschool make my kids slow learners?

Moms and Dads, this is not a race. There are things you can do to engage them academically and socially.  Pressure is on public school teachers to pass a certain number of students each year.

Homeschooling gives kids the unique advantage of trying different methods of learning. You guide them to where they need to be.

Why did this happen?

Questions after tragedy
We may never know why.

What Mark did doesn’t reflect on all us, even though it feels like it. It’s hard not to take some of it personally, but know you’re not leading your child down a destructive path.

We may not ever know the reasons behind his actions, but what people shouldn’t do is blame homeschooling. You just have to make the best decisions you can when it comes to your homeschooled child. And give him or her plenty of love.


How about you? Have you or are you dealing with the fallout after a homeschooled child has committed a horrible crime? I’d like to hear about it. Please comment below.

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A homeschooled mass murderer

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Handwriting Hacks You Should Try in Homeschooling

Handwriting for homeschoolers made easy

Handwriting sucks!

At least that’s what my 6-year-old thinks anyway. He loves science, math, and reading, but when it comes time to write…it’s a battle in which I’m ill-prepared.

I have tried tracing sheets, tracing sheets with Elmer’s Glue, and handwriting apps. I got super desperate and went to YouTube. Nothing works, but I’m determined to teach him how to write.

Thanks to texting and other methods of communication, our kids are missing out on one the coolest forms of existence. I know I’m being a little dramatic, but I still go ga-ga over beautiful signatures.

We’re in the third day of spring break and I’m dreading Monday. I start or end with writing because it’s the toughest subject to teach. Yet, in the middle of everything else, I have made it my mission to teach him this important subject.


Don’t get me wrong, I like technology, but the smarter the machines are the dumber we get. Using my fingerprint, voice activation and four-digit passcodes are convenient, but providing a signature is special. I have my mother’s bible and it’s comforting to look at her handwriting from time to time.

Besides, writing is still and will always be essential. He will have to sign checks, contracts, and he will need his signature in order to get a driver’s license or sign a W-9 for his first job.  Emojis and TTYL won’t cut it.

There’s only one thing to do. Monday is coming and in a few months, his kindergarten year of homeschool will officially be over. I wouldn’t feel comfortable moving him to the next grade unless he could write his name.

WRITE ON MOM! (get it?)

While he enjoys spring break 2018, here’s some handwriting hacks I found to help him love writing.  If you’re having trouble with teaching your kids writing, I’d like to propose a thirty-day challenge to get our butts in gear. Comment below if you’re game and I’ll send you a link!

  • Get dirty.
  • Stuck on you.
  • Tell me a story!
  • Get a grip!
  • Relax, why don’t you?

Get dirty

Handwriting baby
Handwriting with cupcakes, who knew?

Take the formality out of writing. Go to the park, grab a stick, and draw in the dirt. Let imagination take over in the form of shapes and squiggly lines. Allow your child to get comfortable enough to enjoy the creative process.

Stuck on you

Teach handwriting with glue
Handwriting using glue

I mentioned Elmer’s Glue earlier but of course, I did it on a practice sheet. I chose the practice sheet because that’s all I thought that was the best way to learn.  But as one of my favorite sayings goes, there’s more than one way to skin a cat. 

Instead of tracing the glue on a practice sheet, get some construction paper, draw the letters with pencils or a marker, then let your child trace it with the glue. Yes, you will be messy, but it’s a heck of a lot more fun than running writing drills. Plus your child will learn hand-eye coordination which is essential to writing.

Tell me a story

Read to me please!

Reading to your child is a wonderful way to encourage imagination, and can be used to help with writing too! Try using his favorite stories, but leave out the words. Let him fill in the missing words and watch him grow.  Create your own template with this website or visit Pinterest.

If you want to start small, you can just use one letter at a time. For example. The C_t in the H_t knows _ lot _bout th_t.

Get a grip!

Fun and Function
For your fidgety handwriting kiddos

I know I had a hard time with tracing sheets, but that doesn’t mean I’ve banished them and neither should you. There is a product available at Fun and Function I use to help steady his hands when he’s feeling anxious.

Palm weights are wonderful for finger fidgeters and shaky writers. Think of it like holding a Beanie Baby (remember those?) in your hand. These affordable helpers are available for $14.99 a pair.

Relax why don’t you?

Relax before handwriting
Handwriting, woo-sah!

I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention the Golden Rule of parenting. If you grew up in the eighties say it with me, RELAX. It’s okay if your daughter isn’t able to write right now.

In one of my earlier posts, I was frustrated because my son wasn’t reading as quickly as I wanted him to. I compared him to me because I was reading at four-years-old.  One day while driving,  he recognized two of his sight words!

Lesson learned: he will write on his timeline, not mine.


Handwriting doesn’t have to be hard. Learn to make it fun for him and for you. Remember the big picture, you want your kids to be life-long learners.


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How about you? Do you have any creative methods you used to get your child to like handwriting? Share them in the comment section.





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Stop Making Excuses and Homeschool Already, Will Ya?

Excuses, excuses, tsk, tsk, tsk

Moms and Dads, you’re this close to homeschooling your children. You found an affordable curriculum. You’ve read praise report after praise report of parents and children who love learning from home.

But you’re still not convinced that it’s for you.

May I ask a question?

What are you waiting on?

I’ll be super honest, I wasn’t completely sold on the idea at first either. For some reason, I kept playing the scene from Mean Girls over and over in my head. Remember Lindsay Lohan’s character Cady’s voiceover about what others thought of homeschooling?

I can’t get the picture of those spacey kids in the cornfield and what the boy said about Jesus out of my head.


Homeschooling may turn me into this excuses
You might be homeschooled if…

I certainly didn’t want that type of experience for my son. I know the most criticized part of homeschooling is the social aspect. Society is brainwashed to believe kids can’t be productive citizens without a traditional education.

Speaking as the Queen of the Introverts, that simply isn’t true

It’s been twenty-eight years since I left high school. I remember feeling isolated even around my close friends at Westside High. Trying to be seen as a person and not a noun AKA nerd by the cool kids was tough.

If you read or listen to the daily news for the last fifteen years or so, you know what I’m talking about.




Don’t misunderstand, I know these stories have more to do with mental health, gun control, and other issues, but I can’t help but fear the worst for public education.

Excuses removed prayer out of school
Pray for all kids homeschooled or not

When I graduated high school in 1989, the school had one uniformed officer. By the time my best friend’s brother graduated the following year, there were three policemen. When I returned 10 years later to get a copy of my transcript for college, my high school had a police station inside.

My son’s former elementary school has a police station too.

My reasons for disenrolling my son had nothing to do with crime, but when I turn on the TV or look at my smartphone, I feel more confident about the decision to homeschool.

Our first duty as parents is to nurture and protect our children. In today’s educational system, you have to worry about two sets of bullies. The ones in the classroom and the ones in the legislature could care less about your child’s well being.

There are no excuses for bullying
Bullying just isn’t for kids anymore

Even with Keith’s ADHD, taking him out of school was emotionally challenging. The first pushback I received was from my husband until he learned his son was being labeled as a bully. The other pushback I received was from my father-in-law.

My father-in-law is old school. When we asked if he would pay for online learning, he shied away from it. His explanation: the boy gotta learn to take orders.

While I appreciate his concern for his grandson; he didn’t understand how complex the situation is. I didn’t get upset.  What I understand is how deep certain issues run when it comes to tradition.

What got me off the fence was giving tradition, pardon my French, the middle finger. Just because something has been this way for decades doesn’t mean it’s supposed to stay that way. Show of hands, who wants to go back to using an outhouse?


I didn’t think so.


If the lack of social interaction bothers you most cities and even small towns have homeschooling co-ops. Groups of parents form co-ops to form activities like field trips and sports for homeschool kids. If you attend church, there’s Bible School or you can sign your child up for affordable classes at the YMCA.

Now that I’ve taken that tired old excuse from you, let’s get to the real reason why you won’t homeschool.


You’re scared of other people’s opinions!


There. I’ve said it so you won’t have to.

'Other people will judge me' excuses are just plain tired
What you’re listening to them for Mom?

When I say this, please don’t take this as a criticism, but an act of kindness. I’m not calling you weak. I truly, truly, get how other people’s opinion influence what we say, think, do or even dress. It’s nothing to get angry about.

But it is time to get serious.

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, the public school system sucks. Even Bill Gates agrees and this man dropped out of Harvard!  Unless your kids are in an honor’s program or participate in a tech-driven curriculum, what they learn today is useless.

Simply put, the skills our kids learn now were good for the 1950s. Thanks to texting, Skyping, and everything else children have lost their imagination.

Imagination put a man on the moon, created computers, and taught us how to fly

At three-years-old, my son told his grandmother he couldn’t ride with her until he had his belt. He held up his daddy’s belt and told grandma to put it in the car so he could go to the store with her.

We knew he meant seatbelt, but the fact is he used his three-year-old logic to figure it out.

Excuses dim your light
Do head towards the light sweetie!

Imagination at it’s best!

We could’ve sat him down and tried to explain to him why he couldn’t follow grandma. I could’ve have redirected his attention to something else, but I didn’t.

Instead of wasting time with providing excuses; we let him figure it out.

Moms and Dads, instead of wasting time trying to please other people, figure it out. Your children need this. You’re the first teacher: do you want to raise leaders or followers?

Still on the fence? Try these tactics when you’re feeling pressured by the naysayers:

Not the mama! 

It’s your child. Do you really think they would care if you were sending your kid to a pricey private school you couldn’t afford?

No. However, people will talk behind your back about how you can’t afford private school. Just saying.

Thanks, but no thanks

I’ve said in another one of my blogs. Opinions are like sphincter muscles, everyone has one. Where were they when your kid was up all night with colic?

Buehler, Buehler?

Miserable Like Me

Some people don’t want to change. The minute you challenge the status quo, you’re the one with the problem. Was their first response, “why you wanna do that?” or was it “Oh, I hear it’s tough, but more power to you. You can do it!”

Things that make you go hmmmm.

Real talk, homeschooling is hard. Sometimes your children don’t feel like learning. Some days you don’t feel like teaching.

But do you want to know where the real blessings are? You’re both learning together.Who wants to be the shadow person who signs the permission slips and show up at PTA with your foot halfway out the door because you’re ready to leave as soon as you get there? Be the person shaping your child’s future.

I can’t think of a better excuse to homeschool!

How about you? What excuses keep you from homeschooling? I’d love to read them. Please comment below.

How do you deal with peer pressure as an adult?


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Practice These Habits BEFORE You Homeschool

Habits of Highly Successful Homeschoolers

Habits are the love children of routine and nature. Waking up, brushing your teeth, and drinking coffee are parts of our DNA. Our minds are on autopilot.

To repeat an oldie but goodie, some habits are hard to break. Others are hard to develop like replacing the toilet paper (men) or picking up toys (kids).  At best, it takes twenty-one days to develop a new habit.

I don’t know about you but I can be a slower learner.

Slow to form habits
New habits are slow, but sure to form

But our children are walking sponges. We train them while they’re young and put them on a routine. Over time, we teach them to potty, say thank you and please, and put them into a routine for learning, bedtime, and other important rituals.

All in a day’s work, right Mom and Dad?

So why do some of us struggle when we juggle? You have your children’s homeschool routine down to a T, but you are a walking jigsaw puzzle. Why is that?

Okay, I’ll say it first.

Your personal habits suck!

I know, it’s hard to hear, let alone read. But some of us are living on what’s left in the tank.  We start the day with fumes and end it the same way. You’re killing your productivity.

If you don’t believe me, take a look at your day. Do you find yourself hiding from your kids?  Do you put off tasks because you’re not “feeling it”?

These are the first obvious signs of homeschool burnout. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you shouldn’t take a break once in awhile, BUT if your breaks are excuses not to deal with important issues, you may need new habits to help you power through your day.

I know you’ve heard of Steven Covey’s The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Mr. Covey’s book remains a staple for the rich, powerful, and even yours truly. While I don’t even compare, here’s my list of four habits for successful homeschoolers.

  • Eat breakfast

  • Exercise

  • Meditate

  • Routine


Breakfast habits
The best habit you’ll ever have!

Mama told you breakfast is the most important meal of the day and she was right! A breakfast rich in protein and fiber is a surefire way to get you going.  If your idea of breakfast is a cup of coffee and leftover Girl Scouts cookies, I encourage you to make it a priority.

Check out these easy recipes I got from Laura Prather at Homeschool Blogger Network on Facebook.

Delicious Banana French Toast

Lemon Blueberry Muffins

Breakfast Hash

Air Fryer Eggs

Air Fryer Frittata

If you want to get your engine roaring, get up early with hubby and have a private breakfast. Instead of date night make it a lover’s brunch sans kids. Nothing wrong with a little sugar in your bowl, without the eye-rolling from your offspring.


Exercise habit
Pink leg warmers, bad habit, exercise good habit!

The one thing that keeps my sanity is my morning walk. After that alarm rings and after the first snooze button, I get up and take my walk. I love walking this time of year in Texas right before the heat comes. Walking clears my head and prepares me for the day ahead.

Exercise before you homeschool your kids!
Make a habit out of exercise!

A walk around my apartment complex equals three-fourths a mile. One brisk lap is enough for me. If I want to run a marathon, they have a wonderful gym.

You don’t have to make your morning walk about weight loss, make it about you. This is your quiet time before the kids, dogs, and significant other. If you’re worried about falling off the bandwagon, put your walking gear in the bathroom room.

There’s other physical activities you can do too. If you’ve wanted to try yoga, here’s your chance. For safety purposes take your cell phone, but keep it on vibrate.

Remember this is for you. Your boo can find their own dang socks!


Habit of meditating
Think good habits

I used to laugh at this one. Who has time to breathe, let alone sit there and do nothing? Not this homeschool mama.

Meditation is a practice with origins in Asia and India. When I first left my job, I was elated because I could everything I wanted to do but couldn’t because working my 9 to 5 made me tired. That lasted about a week.

I made the conscious decision to slow down because the truth is, I’m busier now than I was when I worked for the man. To calm the hamster in my head, I meditate after my walk. I’m not perfect at it, but I improve every day.

I use an app I found on Google Play Store called Calm. Check to see if it’s available on Apple. This app is amazing.

It has a breathing bubble that shows you how to breathe when to hold your breath and breathe out again. It has calming music and even bedtime stories for the kids! The app is free, but some of the material costs money.

The free stuff is pretty awesome and it comes with a daily inspiration.


Routine another word for habit

We all get the same 24 hours in a day. It’s very likely most days will close with unfinished work on your list. And guess what?

That’s the good part!

Think about the example you’re setting for your kids. Do you want them running around like rats in a maze or do you want them to enjoy the little things?

Routines are more important than a strict schedule, at least in my opinion. Set the environment for learning and good habits, but teach your kids to leave room for life’s twists and turns. You don’t want them to be one of those people who fall apart if everything isn’t just so.

I know it may be harder if you have a child with ADHD like I do, but the best thing I can do when he’s having a hard time with change is let the storm pass. When he’s ready to transition, I can teach him.

I still write things down and my goal is to have one sheet of paper, not an old telephone book size to do list. I created a fourteen-day planner for homeschool mothers, but I print one sheet a day. Why?

Because that’s how real life is, one day at a time.


Before we can be good parents, we have to learn to be good to ourselves. Jumping out of bed without both feet running to take care of everyone else leaves us high and dry. We must be willing to redefine the way we teach our children.

The first step is teaching ourselves patience, kindness, and love. Simply put, we can’t teach anything we haven’t learned for ourselves.

What about you?

Do you find yourself putting you last? Are you burned out by homeschooling? Perhaps you have a habit or ritual that helps you get centered. I’d love to hear about them. Please leave a comment.





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Public School Didn’t Care About My Son’s ADHD

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Public school failed my 6-year-old

You’d think I would know better. As an administrative assistant for Shelby County for seven years, I watched children with behavioral problems go through the revolving door called Juvenile Court.

Thousands of psychological reports and cases littered my desk daily. One of my worst files contained an arrest of a five-year-old for bringing a gun to public school.

As a single parent to my then nine-year-old daughter, I did my best to keep her out the injustice system. A young black girl with an absentee father is a disastrous recipe for failure. I did my best to set a good example by having an education, owning my home, and going to church.

I believed that if you live right, life would be fine. And for a while, it was fine. Far from perfect, but I tried to give her a good life so she wouldn’t end up a juvenile delinquent.

Fast forward to 2010, I’m married, then pregnant at 40. When most of my friends were getting ready for graduations and even grandparenting, I was starting over. I didn’t fuss too much because this time I’m not alone. Also, I live in the great state of Texas where children still say yes and no ma’am or sir.

I thought my husband’s presence in our son’s life would exempt him from trouble even from his ADHD, but I was wrong. My son’s ADHD has wreaked havoc. Tantrums, lack of control, and limited resources have made our lives hell.

3 different daycares since age 3

Eventually, we were able to enroll him in a public school Pre-K class. For a while, it was a Godsend; I was able to relax. It didn’t last long because the behavior started again. Keith would get physical, use four-letter words, and rarely listened. Academically he excelled, but his behavior was keeping him from being his best.

He had to attend an additional year of Pre-K because Texas school law states a child has to be age 5 by September 1. My son’s birthday is on the sixteenth. I don’t know if a year really makes a difference; all I knew then is I was ready for him to leave Pre-K.

I believe some of his problems are his brain works faster than most kids. Holding a kid like that back a year doesn’t do him any good, but as I was soon to find out, public education is not about what’s best for the child. Public school is about numbers.

When it was time to enter Kindergarten, Keith was a little scared because Pre-K was all he knew. He would be leaving behind his friends and teachers. My fears is because I knew his problems would follow him there.

You’re probably familiar with IEP programs if your child has ADHD or other learning disabilities. Public school puts together a team made of teachers, the principal, and the guidance counselor to help your child do his best. What I was promised in that meeting is the new school is aware of his learning disability and that they would help him succeed.

I was wrong

Keith’s behavior and ADHD showed up as usual. At first, dad and I were able to talk to him. The counselors and his teacher seem to be on board. However as the days went on, things became worse.

About a month into his kindergarten year,  the principal and vice principal request a meeting. My husband has mandatory overtime on Fridays and couldn’t attend.  I prepare myself even though it wasn’t the first time I met with an administrator, but I wasn’t expecting the bombshell they dropped in my lap.

Your son is a

How some public schools label ADHD

I wish I was making this up, but I’m not. The parents of the other child filed a police report against my son for bullying. In the principal’s words, my son “targeted” this kid. In my son’s offense, he protected a little girl from the other kid who threatened to throw a bug on her.

A little gentleman yes. A bully, no.

I suppose I could go on a rant about the total BS of that conversation, but I won’t. I could scream bloody murder about the injustice to my son, but I won’t do that either. What I will say is this: public schools FAIL children with ADHD.

Think about it. If my son had a wheelchair, they would build him a ramp. If my son was deaf, they would hire an interpreter. Yet he has ADHD which is a real disability, they have nothing to offer him.

Nearly 10 percent of school-age children diagnosed, but we remain short on supply of teachers, proper training, and proper medicine.

What excuse do we have?

Now some 15 years later after my daughter’s diagnosis, we know more about this learning disability. While medication is helpful, therapy has worked wonders for our son that is when we can get the insurance company to pay for it. That is a topic I will address in another post.

But back to the public school system. What or why aren’t they doing more to help children with learning disabilities? There are two federal laws on the books that are supposed to help children.

Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 does not have strict ­qualification criteria but is limited to changes in the classroom, modifi­cations in homework assignments, and taking tests in a less distracting environ­ment or allowing more time to complete tests.”

“The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, Part B (IDEA) requires public schools to cover costs of evaluating the educational needs of the affected child and providing the needed special education services if your child qualifies because her learning is impaired by her ADHD.”

During our IEP meeting, dad and I were told that every accommodation will be made to help Keith but I feel like they failed him. We still have the paperwork on what they promised, but failed to deliver. we could get a lawyer, but we’re not those people. Now I work from home and homeschool my son.

But what about the other parents out there? Who fights for them? Who fights for you?



Have you faced a similar problem? What did you do? I’d love to hear your story. Please share your comments below.




Post was originally published 11/1/17 update for 2/24/18




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Medicine for ADHD: 3 Crucial Things You Should Know

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When  ‘just say no’ to medicine isn’t an option

Medicine for ADHD isn’t an easy choice. Maybe your pediatrician thinks your child is too young. Or your in-laws believe you’re being too soft on your kid.

Whatever the case is, you know what you’re doing isn’t working. Before I homeschooled, I got calls every day to come pick him up from daycare. I pulled him out of daycare after he hit a teacher’s hand with a broom.

The last two weeks before Pre-K ended he was in trouble every day. A month into Kindergarten I withdrew him before he was expelled.

I was frustrated and tried every method known to parent-kind. I had to face a hard fact. He needs medicine that works.

It’s a difficult truth to face about your baby. He’s wonderful and the sight of him makes your heart melt. She’s funny and creative with a mischievous sense of humor.

Medicine for ADHD?
ADHD makes life interesting, doesn’t it?

And then there’s the ADHD

Without question, ADHD makes it difficult to parent. But what about the child? A social situation like school, church, or even the grocery store has minefields full of triggers that can set her off.

After the official diagnosis, we requested medication. Were we scared? You bet.

My daughter was diagnosed in first grade in 2002. Frequent outbursts, lack of focus, and a caring teacher led me to get treatment. I kept it a secret because back then it was a sign of lazy parenting.

Fast forward to 2014 I noticed the same symptoms in my son. I scheduled a second visit with his pediatrician who wasn’t onboard the first time I mentioned my suspicions. Thankfully, he was unavailable but a caring nurse practitioner told me to get him tested after witnessing his ADHD behavior first hand.

No one wants to give a 3-year-old drugs

Even with an official diagnosis, no one wants to prescribe meds to a child that young. I understood that, but when counseling, discipline, and non-drug treatments fail you, what do you do?

It’s time to fight!

And believe me when I tell you, you’re in for a fight.

You’ll fight with insurance companies, doctors, your friends, your in-laws, people at the checkout line at Wal-Mart and maybe your spouse. This battle continues until they’re out of your house and even then it may show up at Thanksgiving.

The point I’m trying to make is children with ADHD become adults with ADHD. The good news is, it’s treatable with proper medication and other factors like diet and exercise. If you want to use medicine to treat your child’s ADHD, here are three things you should know.

  • Insurance

  • Genetic testing

  • Holistic treatment

Insurance companies are notorious for keeping treatment out of the hands of people who pay their salaries. There I said it. I’m talking from a customer and former employee standpoint.

Medicine Insurance
Insurance, the necessary evil

If you don’t believe me, watch Michael Moore’s documentary Sicko.

All critique aside, you must call your insurance company and verify:

If a provider is currently contracted with your insurance (Never ask a doctor if he takes your insurance, phrase your question “Are you currently contracted with __________” Also don’t rely on your insurance company’s website provider list, as many as 50% of the providers listed don’t take the insurance anymore. Also, find out if you need a referral first.

How much your deductible is: Does your deductible increase if you go out of network? If you haven’t met your deductible, how much is your office visit co-pay to see a specialist? I know it sounds old hat, but when I worked as a customer services agent over half of my calls were from people who were P.O.’d when the insurance company didn’t pay a bill because deductibles weren’t met.

Find out which meds they will pay for and if there are any restrictions. For example, my company wouldn’t pay for medicine because he was too young. My son had to use Adderall which made him like a zombie.

Genetic testing

Genetics Medicine
Genetic testing for ADHD can be useful

Do understand a lot has changed since my daughter’s diagnosis in the early 2000s. I discovered genetic testing on one of the group boards on Facebook. I had no idea that you can order a genetic test to discover which medicine works best for your child.

Warning, the tests are expensive, but some insurance companies will pay for it. The most popular two are Genesight and kailosgenetics.com/ADHD.

Genesight tests for ADHD, depression, chronic pain, and Folate deficiency. With insurance, your out of pocket costs may be around $300. If you have Medicaid or Medicare, your cost is $0. They even have options if you’re uninsured.

Kailosgenetics does genetic testing for ADHD and offers other screenings for cancer. They also provide genetic testing for people who want to start a family. The cost of their test is $149 for first-time customers.

Both companies offer the swab test so no needles. A couple of swipes inside your youngster’s cheek and you’re done! Mail the results to the lab and get your results in a few weeks.

I’m trying the Kailos tests because obviously, I want to save money, but I did my research which I advise the same to you.  What I noticed with Kailos is you have to share your results with a Kailos provider depending on which state you live in.

With Genesight, your results are delivered with 36 hours; Kailos takes 10 business days. Both companies make the same promise which is to find the best treatment for your genetic type. Taking the guessing game out of which meds work best is a game changer for you and your child.

Look for my review of Kailos my product review page next month.

Holistic treatment

Essential oils the alternative medicine
Essential oils can be effective

Finally, there is the holistic route. There are hundreds of natural methods to treat ADHD. When I first suspected my son had ADHD at age 2, I tried a natural treatment first.

Synaptol is a natural homeopathic over the counter supplement mostly used to relieve the symptoms of Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder-ADHD. It is a remedy for individual with problems such as inability to listen to instructions, focus, control impulses or pay attention to a given task.

The Synaptol worked great at first, but it started to lose its effect. I believe it’s because of his natural growth. I tried some other methods, but the natural medicines weren’t strong enough to keep up with his chemistry.

Just like any other medicines, what doesn’t work for him may work wonders for another child. Parents swear by essential oils like:



I haven’t tried the essential oil on him yet, but I know the scent of lavender calms. I will admit to buying a kyanite and lavender crystal for myself and they both have a calming effect.

There are traditional methods I use to help him. You probably remember these:

  • Playing outside
  • Biking riding
  • Raking leaves
  • Playing classical music
  • Yoga (Okay it’s still new to the Western world, but it’s been around for ages )

The more physical activity he does, the less impulsive he is. Also, did you know lack of sunlight causes Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD?) Sometimes, just getting kids back into nature does the trick. When possible, I try to schedule two recesses a day, one before and after lessons.


All children are undeniably extraordinary, but not equal. My daughter’s ADHD made her super talkative and super fidgety. My son is that times 100, plus he’s aggressive when irritated, has no focus, and no impulse control.

I’m speaking for myself when I say traditional methods don’t work for him.  I remember my mistakes with my daughter’s diagnosis and I’m going to do my best not to do the same with my son.

The medicine won’t fix him, but it will help us to become better people.


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Embarrassment to Empowerment: Tools to get through those ADHD moments

Embarrassment happens to us all

Embarrassment tales usually start like this:

You manage to get through lessons without tears. He eats all his breakfast without complaint. She even cleans her room without additional warnings.

Feeling hopeful? Maybe I can run a quick errand or two!

So you whisk your ADHD child to the grocery store. You have your list ready, you sacrificed your smartphone to keep her occupied. You know which aisles trigger tantrums so you avoid them at all costs.

And then the unspeakable happens…

Some Neanderthal sets a display of candy in the pet foods aisle. Your kid spots it and all hell slowly breaks loose and the next thing you know, you’re in a verbal tug of war of why they can’t have the candy. Passerbys give you the look and the next thing you know you’re in the middle of an embarrassing situation.

Parenting a child with ADHD is hard. If trying to find the right meds for your kid or dealing unsympathetic providers doesn’t stress you out, then dealing with meltdowns and unsympathetic looks will make you want to run in a corner and hide.

Perhaps the worst feeling of all is the embarrassment.You feel like a total failure. Failure makes you feel like giving up.

Why me?

I’d be lying to you if I didn’t say dealing with Keith’s ADHD isn’t exhausting. The constant talking, his impulsivity, and lack of focus are why I homeschool. The ADHD makes him disruptive and sometimes downright annoying.

Yes, I said it. My son is annoying.

I do love him with all of my heart and I wouldn’t wish for another child, but I do wish he didn’t have ADHD because it causes a level of embarrassment I can’t gloss over with a “he missed his nap.”

But because he does have ADHD, I have to be his biggest advocate so he can grow up and have an amazing life.

So how do you stop the embarrassment?

Let me be very clear, you CANNOT stop the embarrassment.  Because just when you think you have heard, done, or seen it all, your child will do something to top the last time she embarrassed you.

True story: My husband took my son to get his haircut. My son is hypersensitive to noise, lights, and will shrivel up like a prune if you try to touch his ears. After lots of coaching, I sent him to the shop with his dad.

It wasn’t his first time getting a haircut, but it was his first time at this shop with this barber. His previous barbers were one of those kiddie cut shops. I stopped taking him because if he didn’t get to sit in the Lightning McQueen Car, he wasn’t going to do it.

Everything was going well until the barber tried to shape up around his ears. This was to be expected, but I coached him to become a statue when the barber gets to that area. The clipper nicked his ear and he shouted “G——–.”

Needless to say, the whole shop froze. My husband was embarrassed. I was embarrassed for him but glad I wasn’t there.

My son learned that word at the age of two. His great-grandmother has dementia and said it a few times when we went to Lampassas for Grandpa Happy’s birthday. Obviously, he never forgot that word, and it showed up again at the age of five.


I don’t know about you, but there is nothing worse than hearing foul language from a child. And in most cases, it’s totally appropriate to blame the parent, BUT if the child didn’t learn that word from the parent, it’s an unfair judgment.

I know, I know, society doesn’t live in your house, but in that moment, they do and it’s mortifying.

So do I grocery shop after he goes to bed? Learn how to cut his hair? Tape his mouth shut?

Grocery shop at night? Sometimes. Get his hair cut when he starts to look like Cousin It from the Addams Family? Yes. And no to taping his mouth shut, though his dad fantasizes about it.

Before frustration sets in, here is a handy acronym to help you get through those tough moments when you want the earth to swallow you whole.


Practice makes an improvement. In The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child, Dr. Kazdin recommends prompting your child before the situation occurs. Prompting is an effective parenting tool that you’ve been using all along.

Think about it. When someone gives your child a gift, you prompt your child to say thank you. Use the same method but tweak it to your situation.

Think it doesn’t work? Think back to your childhood. Remember the “we’re going to the store and we’re only getting these items, don’t ask for any toys speech and I mean it.”

Raise your hand if your mom gave you the “I dare you” stare to drive her point home.

Recognize your child’s triggers.  If the bright lights, noisy machines, and the bustle of traffic aren’t distracting enough, then they came up with the brilliant idea to put random toy displays all over the place.

Toys are most children’s trigger, but ADHD takes it to a whole other level. In case of selective amnesia, there are a couple of products I recommend to keep your child busy while you shop.

Noise Reduction Headphones by Function and Function reduce noise levels by 20 decibels. Although these headphones can’t be used for music, they help your child function in a noisy environment. Less noise means less distraction.

Regulation Putty helps your child express their feeling and increase motor skills. The putty is filled with a facial mood that expresses a range of emotions. When your child is feeling anxious, she can squeeze the putty to help find the most appropriate feeling.

Exit immediately if things start to escalate. You may have to go to another aisle to calm your child or you may have to leave the store. It’s doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent, it means you made the best choice for you and your child.

Embarrassed? Exit
Exit stage left

The truth is, you know your limitations. Ever wonder why some parents pretend to go deaf when a kid is screaming their head off? Because some of them are experts at calling their child’s bluff and won’t give them the satisfaction of giving in.

How do you tell the difference between those parents and the other ones who appear deaf, those parents don’t look defeated. And they do not apologize.

Pick your battles. Finally, we have to learn when to stand our ground and when to let it go. Some days you win, some days the ADHD wins.

There isn’t any shame in losing, the shame comes when you give up.

Raising a child with ADHD means embarrassment, frustration, and sometimes anger.  It also means you get up every day and do your best, learn from your mistakes, and keep moving forward. I’m rooting for you!


What about you? Has your child’s behavior embarrassed you? What did you do? I’d love to hear about it. Please share it in the comment section near the top right hand corner.


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