Focalin product review for January 2018

Hands Are Not for Hitting, by Martine Agassi, Ph.D. Product Review December 2017

An awesome tool to teach children about hitting

Hands Are Not For Hitting
December Review for the Month Hands Are Not for Hitting

The only time my son starts hitting is when he gets super frustrated. I knew my son’s ADHD would be a problem and so did his school. He hits when he can’t express himself.

By no means do I condone his hitting, but I do understand that he thinks differently and it’s going to take him longer to get it. Parenting a child with ADHD is an act of patience and heavy repetition.

The day after I unenrolled him from school, I visited Lakeshore. Lakeshore is a store that sells educational materials to teachers and homeschool parents. It’s a nerd’s paradise for teachers and people who homeschool.

While skipping through the shop and sniffing the smell of fresh notebook paper, I stopped by the book aisle. I was greeted by an assortment of books about spelling, reading, and counting, when Hands Are Not for Hitting by Martine Agassi, Ph.D. this book caught my eye.

This book, brilliantly illustrated by Marieka Heinlen, mindfully instructs children how to use their hands without dumbing the lesson down. The sentences are short but easy to interpret by a 4-7-year-old age group. Each picture matches the sentences so kids can see and hear the appropriate action.

Why I Like This Book

I can’t emphasize enough how simple this book is. My son and I both love this book. He points, asks questions, and has it burned to his memory. It’s become one of his favorite books.

Even though my son isn’t returning to public school anytime soon, I want a book like this on the shelf. Keith’s ADHD was worse in school, but I knew leaving school wouldn’t stop his impulse to hit. He’s been trained to keep his hands to himself, but to have a book like this written in a language he can understand is way more effective than yelling stop or empty threats.

Keith’s lesson

In a moment when we’re both calm, I’ll say hands are not for hitting and he remembers. In the heat of battle, I can hold his hands firmly and sternly repeat the phrase. The last time he wanted to hit someone was Thanksgiving after his cousins intentionally hid his toys from him so I took him upstairs away from the noise to remind him that hands are not for hitting.

The books are a part of a series called Best Behavior. The books are available for children ages 0-3 in the Toddler Tools series if you want to get a jump on the terrible twos. Free Spirit Publishing prints the book.

I forgot to mention the best part! They’re affordable! I also purchased Words Are Not for Hurting by Elizabeth Verdick.

Words Are Not For Hurting

Dr. Agassi is an awarding winner children’s author and behavior therapist. Marieka Heinlen is a celebrated children’s illustrator. The books are available in Spanish too.

Dr. Agassi is also available for speaking engagements and workshops. Agassi’s contact information is found on the last page of the book. Her book series is available in bulk if you’re in a co-op or big church or know someone who is.

They also make great stocking stuffers for the holidays or gifts to help prepare new moms for the terrible twos.


I can’t say it enough how this book has been a big help to me. I know he’ll have impulse control issues because of his ADHD, but at least I have a handy reminder when things go crazy.

Bonnie’s Review (5 / 5)

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