The Beautiful People We Admire Have ADHD

Celebirities with ADHD
I wonder where Jim Carrey shops for his fidget spinner…

Celebrities with ADHD, wait, WHAT?

ADHD are four letters that add up to big problems. Lack of focus, hyperactivity, and plenty of frustration affect everyone. Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is a big topic of debate in schools and at dinner tables.

If you were anything like me in the early 2000s, I was on the side of the fence that didn’t believe in it. I thought children were just being bad and parents were being wimps. Yes, I know, ouch.

When my daughter was diagnosed I got a taste of my own medicine. My “friends”  snubbed their noses and didn’t believe me.  Thank God my juvenile justice system colleagues were supportive.

ADHD is a hard road to travel alone

It takes a village of family, friends, prayer, diet, sometimes meds and counseling to get through the journey. Until a few weeks ago, I thought I was all alone on this journey.

The last counselor told me that kids with ADHD go on to do big things. I didn’t believe it at the time because my son was kicked out of his second daycare. I found myself pouting and wanting an easier road.

Celebs with ADHD
ADHD can be lonely too

Do you feel this way too?

Raising children isn’t an easy task anyway, but raising a child with learning disabilities is a whale of a challenge. If your child is in public school, there may be resources available, but a homeschool parent is left to their own devices. It’s a never-ending battle between your child’s behavior, insurance companies, and doctors who think they know your child better than you.

What his last therapist said didn’t hit me until a few days ago. I was doing some research on my last blog when I ran across a link regarding celebrities with ADHD. I have to tell the truth when I say some people are more obvious than others, achoo! Jim Carrey, I mean bless you.

There are some big names out there who have done well despite unfair labels like troublemaker, lazy, and never going to amount to anything.  The list was long but I managed to narrow it down to a few of my favorite people I love to see in film, sports, TV, music, and business.

  

Justin Timberlake

I’ll let you whip me if…

So what can I say about my boy Justin? He sings, dances, acts and used to date, Cameron Diaz. I’m sorry, I’m an older chick so I’m team Cameron, not Jessica Biel.

Back to reality Bonnie, before he won Grammys, acted, and made my then teen-aged daughter swoon, he was diagnosed with ADHD.

 Justin is from my hometown of Memphis. This one came as a shock, I just thought he was a prankster.  I thought he liked to be goofy so people wouldn’t remember he was in the Mickey Mouse club once up a time.

 

Jamie Oliver

Spaghetti anyone?

 

You have to love a man who can cook and trying to save children from obesity and tooth loss one bite at a time.

 As a child, celebrity chef Jamie was diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia. In a 2015 interview with DailyMail UK, Jamie says he was pulled out of classes to go to special need sessions. Jamie says changing his diet helped his ADHD and encourages parents to eliminate foods that may trigger ADHD symptoms.

 

Will Smith

 

And you thought he was naturally funny, it’s the ADHD

All hail the Fresh Prince! Hollywood’s billion dollar man has ADHD!  His class clown antics were a disguise for his shortcomings, but with hard work, he made Oscar nominations out of those lemons.

If you watch reruns of the Fresh Prince, you can see Will’s mouth moving while other actors are saying their lines. If you notice your kiddo’s lips moving while you’re teaching, this may be a coping mechanism or a tool to retain information.

 

Michael Phelps

It was the “H” that helped him score 4 medals

Despite losing a race to a computer generated shark, this gold medal phenom is still a winner in my book.  Michael’s ADHD was discovered at age 9.  His mom, the charming Debbie Phelps, shared her experience with Everyday Health.

Debbie’s story resonates with a lot of mothers. Michael’s pre-K years resembles my son’s. Keith’s inability to stay on task,  incessant talking and fidgeting drove his teachers, classmates, and us up a wall.

 The good news is Keith loves to swim.  Olympics 2028 here we come!

 

Howie Mandel

 

Did you touch my hand sanitizer?

 

The actor, comedian, and host, brought many television and movie audiences laughter over the years. When’s he’s not hosting America’s Got Talent, he’s avoiding germs like the plague.

 

Howie has a little OCD going on in terms of his germophobia. He doesn’t shake hands with the contestants and you may see him constantly reach in his pocket. No worries, he’s just making sure his hand sanitizer is within reach.

 

Michelle Rodriguez

 

Fast and Fabulous

Before she was fast and furious, Michelle struggled in school like most kids yet that didn’t keep her from scoring a role on one of TV’s favorite drama Lost.

 

Michelle plays a lot of tough characters in her films. I’m no movie critic, but my guess is she draws upon her experience with ADHD. Michelle explained in 2016 interview that she didn’t want to take medication even though it may have affect career as a future director and writer.

 

Solange Knowles

 

 

Come sit at my table

 

Yes, she’s Beyonce’s sister, but make no mistake about it, she’s a star. Before she made elevators interesting again, Solange was a backup singer and songwriter to her sister’s Grammy-winning group Destiny’s Child. Solange made her acting debut in the Johnson’s Family Vacation.

 

Despite the rumors of being a hothead (cheat on my sister and I’ll dot your eye too), she’s a lyrical genius. Solange won her first Grammy last year for her groundbreaking CD A Seat at the Table

 

Whoopi Goldberg

Whoopeeee!!!!!!

Academy Award, Grammy, Emmy, and Tony-winning actress (Ghost), comedian (HBO, etc), host (The View) philanthropist, singer (Sister Act) wearer of dreads and tells you what’s on her mind in a heartbeat, Whoopi Goldberg, formerly known as Caryn Johnson has ADHD and dyslexia.

Whoopi was referred to as dumb or retarded by her peers but her mother, her strongest advocate, told her to pay those jerks no mind. Whoopi credits her ADHD and dyslexia for giving her the courage to think differently.  So there.

 

Emma Watson

 

This disease has a name

 

 

Before she gave the boys a run for their money at Hogwarts and tamed the monster in the enchanting live-action story Beauty and the Beast, Emma was diagnosed with ADHD in her childhood.

Emma’s one smart enchilada too. She has a degree in English from Brown and is a United Nations Women’s Ambassador.

 

Eva Longoria

 

Tony Parker who?

This Corpus Christi, Texan, native, and former Desperate Housewife Gabby Solis made us shout Hallejenuah on Sunday nights with her cutthroat one-liners. My favorite Gabby line, “don’t high jack a Ferrari, if you don’t know how to drive” has ADHD.

Eva disclosed this information after DH series created an episode about a character’s addiction to Ritalin. Eva takes Ritalin to control her ADHD.  Adult ADHD was brought to the limelight only about ten years ago.

 

 

 

 

So there you have it. This is only the tip of the iceberg. I can probably fill my next two blogs about celebrities who have this disease. There were many other names I could’ve included like the sexy Ryan Gosling, beloved Robin Williams and Joan Rivers, RIP.

 

Yes, Harvard dropout, multi-billionaire Bill Gates has it too.

 

Pardon me, have you seen my bank account?

 

 

 

 

 

 

And if my list didn’t make it plainer, let me sa it loud and clear.ADHD doesn’t mean your child can’t succeed. He or she won’t spend their lives wandering aimlessly from job to job either. With patience, guidance, and understanding, they can make someone’s top 10 list too. LOL

 

Comments?

 

Can you think of any other celebrities? Do you suspect a famous person has it? I’d love to read your guesses and find so please share below.

 

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Don’t You Dare Homeschool Your Kids by Yourself!

How to get your partner to help homeschool

Let me start off by saying my husband is really proud of our son’s progress since we decided to homeschool. Hubby’s chest puffs up when his son recognizes words and states facts you wouldn’t hear from most six-year-olds.

I want to slap my husband.

Now before you think I’m going to pull drive-by spousal assault, I’m not going to hit my hubby. Have I thought about it? Yes, but hasn’t anyone who’s been married for more than a minute?

I’m the teacher, baker, and candlestick maker. I establish Keith’s routines and chores throughout the day. I’m the one that fights with our boy when he wants to be silly and grinds her teeth when he misses something I think he should know.

I knew that

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I also bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and I can empty the garbage better than he can.

Sorry, not sorry. Okay, okay, I’m sorry.

Like a lot of you, I know I handle way too much and I do it because I feel my way is the best way to do it. There I said it. I know it makes me come off like a control freak, but most ladies out there will agree with me that moms have a certain way of making the impossible, incredible.

I’m going to trademark that.

But guess what homeschool divas and dudes? (I know they’re some guys out there rocking it too), it’s lonely at the top. Homeschooling, much like parenting, isn’t a job for the faint-hearted.

Homeschooling also isn’t meant to be done alone. Like the African proverb says, it takes a village to raise a child. Moms and Dads, even if one partner works full-time, the work should be done together.

However…

97 percent of married couples in the U.S. homeschool their children. In most cases, one parent works while the other stays home. The breadwinner seems to get a pass in homeschooling.

Is this fair?

My situation is a little unique. For now, I work from home full-time. My son is young so I don’t need more than an hour with him.  My husband works full-time too, and thankfully, close to home.

He doesn’t look TOO busy to help

 

I do 99.999999 percent of the teaching. I’ve asked for help, mostly if he can laminate the tracings I use to help Keith write his name. I also ask if he can go over sight words with our son.

My husband makes dinner for my son because I log off the computer in the late evening. He also gives him a bath and makes sure he brushes his teeth. I know that’s more help than some women get, but I want our son to feel that both his parents have his back when it comes to his learning.

 

Reading, ‘Riting, etc

I’m all for girl power, but some things require a man’s touch. In 2010, less than 20 percent teachers in the U.S. were male. If we’re fortunate enough to have a caring man in the home or a part of our lives, how can we usher them into this experience without nagging them about it?

I wracked my brain and scoured the Internet to find some creative ways to include my husband in homeschooling. I came up with some ideas to help you and me get our significant others more involved.

  • Forgive

  • Praise

  • Support

  • Let Go

 

Forgive

This is one I didn’t expect to find but it makes total sense. You can’t ask your mate to help more with homeschooling until you forgive. If you’re stewing over the fact, your SO walked right past you while you’re struggling to keep junior’s attention, you’re not ready to ask for help.

Forgiving your SO is important

Another good reason you need to forgive is resentment clouds your thoughts. Thoughts become words and words become heated if you begin with you never (fill in the blank.)

Praise

I know it sounds super simple, but granny was right when she said you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Our honey is just like our kids;  they love to hear how well they did. The more you praise your sweetie, the more they want to do for you.

Support

Women are born nurturers while men are born clueless. Sorry had to tell it like it is. I know a lot of us have been carrying the load for a long time, but early in the game, they may need us to guide them.

Everyone needs guidance

Once your kids feel comfortable with the other parent teaching, take a breath or a break! Don’t be a helicopter and hover. Trust me when I say your kids will let you know if your love muffin is messing up.

Let It Go

The other parent will never be as good as you. Now that I’ve said it, go forth and paint your toes, watch Netflix, even cook dinner without hearing, I’m hungry.  Until you can walk by the learning area without giving your two cents, resist the urge.

At some point, you have to relinquish control and trust your partner has your kids’ best interest too. This isn’t a license to dump all the duties on the other person, because, after all, this is why you’re ticked off, but a chance to make learning a family thing.

 

Be like Elsa

 

Conclusion

To wrap it up, we’d all like to go back to a time when online meant hanging clothes out to dry. Dad worked, Mom cleaned the house wearing pearls, and kids played outside. Pfffft!

In the new millennial, we’re faced with challenges our grandparents and even our parents didn’t have to deal with. Parental involvement means all hands all deck. Homeschooling isn’t any different. Our kids should benefit from the educational and life experiences both parents have to offer.

Comments?

How about you? Are you pulling all the weight on the homeschool journey? Does it feel like your partner is taking you for granted because you stay at home to teach the kids? If you’re one of the lucky ones who has a helped a partner get on deck, please share your comments and suggestions below.

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5 Things to Consider before Joining a Homeschool Co-Op

From both sides of the homeschool co-op coin

I’m still in the early stages of my homeschool journey with my six-year-old son. I found a curriculum I’m happy with and I enjoy showing him little things like how to make a bed and other useful lifestyle habits. I’m happy with his progress and I’m thinking maybe a homeschool co-op will be a great addition to his experience.

Moms and Dads if you’re anything like me, you probably have this gnawing feeling in the back of your mind that the isolation may affect your child’s social skills.  I’m a work at home mom so my time is devoured by homeschooling, working full time as a customer care agent and building a business.

Sleep is for wusses.

 

Who needs sleep?
Running an empire on coffee and creativity

 

I know he needs to be around kids his own age and I try to include fun time during my short breaks and lunch. Therefore, I keep the weekends fun and manage to slip in a learning opportunity without him noticing.

But is that enough?

When I first started thinking about homeschooling him, I took to Facebook to find an online group in my area. I’m being honest when I say they weren’t much help. I remained a part of the group, but I seldom posted because I didn’t feel anyone took me seriously.

I decided to homeschool because of an eye-opening negative experience with the public school system. I jumped back on Facebook determined to give them another chance. I still wasn’t feeling it so I looked for more groups. I found some wonderful people in my city and beyond who are fun and are willing to share without asking too many questions.

I’m naturally socially anxious so when someone asks me too many questions, I get suspicious. I know it’s not their fault, but if you’re already in the know, I think I should be the one with the questions.

Am I wrong?

Choose what's right for you

Enough about that, let’s get back to co-ops. In case you’re newbie, a homeschool co-op is a group of families who meet together and work cooperatively to achieve common goals. Co-ops were created to build a community of families who homeschool.

These big groups aren’t just for churches and YMCAs anymore. You can find them online, word of mouth, or even start your own. Many have a Christian background but are open to all beliefs.

I’ll be honest with you. There’s a great debate in the homeschool community co-ops. Some people say they can’t do without their co-ops and others say it’s unnecessary.

If you’re on the fence about joining a co-op here are some things to consider:

  • Rules
  • Cost
  • Activities
  • Schedule
  • People

Rules

Consider if a homeschool co-op is for you.

First of all, a homeschool co-op isn’t like a club where everyone can join. By no means do they discriminate, but they may have a limit on the families they accept for the year. Sometimes, they hold an open house when a slot becomes available; if they do, take this opportunity to find out if the co-op is a good fit for you.

Cost

Next, some co-ops do have fees. They may be collected monthly, annually, or members are asked to pay per activity. This is to help everyone in the co-op participate as some families may be on a limited income.

If spending money bothers you, you should know the fees aren’t anything ridiculous. On average fees are less than $200 annually plus the money funds the co-ops. The fees may pay for books, field trips, and even emergency funds when families get strapped.

Activities

Bible studies, science fairs, field trips, tutoring, and dances, oh my! Some co-ops have organized sports teams and play against other co-ops or organizations. Children are grouped by age, not skill and teamwork not competition is the conveyed message.

Schedule

Some co-ops are casual, but most of the ones I’ve seen run a tight ship. If you aren’t active, they will give you the boot. For the stricter co-ops, parents are expected to volunteer their time, attend meetings, and pay dues.

My request was denied for a mommy group because I work full time. Never mind I work second shift. Pfffttt!

People

Finally, the most important part of homeschool co-ops are the people who lead it and the children who benefit from it. In public school as long as you pay the PTA dues, you hardly had to show your face. You only had to play nice when your child begged you to volunteer.

Homeschool communities are built by people who have the same goal. I’m not in one right now, I won’t make the assumption it’s all rainbows and sunshine, but I believe there are some groups out there who work diligently to get provide a safe space for families to connect with their children and each other.

Also, there’s a co-op called FEAST I’ve heard great reviews. You may want to check to see if there is one in your city or town.

What I’ve Learned

Co-ops can be a valuable part of your child’s education. They can make friends without labels and learned to be valued as a person and not a number. Most importantly, I’ve learned there are flaws just like any other organization and unlike public school, isn’t a one size fit all thing.

In conclusion, homeschooling co-ops aren’t for everyone. There are some people who can’t live without it and others say it’s totally unnecessary. The good thing is you have a choice and isn’t that what matters most of all?

 

 

How about you? Comment and share your homeschool co-op experience below? Was it yay or nay? I’d love to hear about it!

 

Bonnie Harris Price

@workathomelady

@blogginTXmama

@40ishmom

bonnie@ADHDhomeschooled.com

  

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https://www.myjoyfilledlife.com/2016/03/08/5-reasons-to-join-a-homeschool-co-op/

https://simplycharlottemason.com/scmforum/topic/how-important-is-a-co-op/

https://www.thehomeschoolmom.com/what-is-homeschool-co-op/

 

How to Survive Homeschooling through the Holidays

Without having a major meltdown

Real life isn’t a Norman Rockwell painting. It’s filled with twists, turns, and homeschooling.

Trying to get through the holidays is tough. My first time with homeschooling during the holidays presents a challenge. I work full-time so I took off a week’s vacation to relax and concentrate on cooking a belt-busting fabulous meal Thursday.

Homeschooling changed all of that. In the past, I could forget about homework, school zones, and feel like a single woman again with my husband at work and my son only making appearances for food and the occasional, “I’m bored Mom.”

When kids don't know how to entertain themselves
My son when he is bored

Not anymore. Teaching my son from home means he still needs a schedule. I believe I worry more about him retaining information than I did when he was in public school.

I’ll be honest with you. Monday, I was on point. We got a lot accomplished with writing his name, learning new sight words, and even going to the library. When Tuesday came, I didn’t want to be bothered and neither did he.

We pushed through our temper tantrums and got through lessons, but I couldn’t help feeling it was forced. When my daughter was his age, it was pajamas all day, leaving the house when we felt like it, and going to my friends’ house to mooch, uh share Thanksgiving. Now I’m a mom to two, grandmother to one, soon to be a mother in law, AND homeschool teacher, I feel overwhelmed guys.

I know, I know, I’m whining. Yet did I forget to mention, I’m cooking Thanksgiving dinner this year. AGAIN!

Thanksgiving tradition
Gobble, gobble

I’ve seriously slacked off this week and I’m scared I won’t be able to go back to our regularly scheduled program. Did you feel this way in the beginning? I’m seriously stressing out over this.

I don’t know about you, but I have an all or nothing attitude when it comes to challenges. I’m afraid if I give myself room to breathe I won’t come back. This is why I haven’t been to a WeightWatchers meeting in months, why I can’t stay on a cleaning schedule, and why I can’t binge watch an entire season on Netflix in one day.

My mind needs a break from routine. This is why vacations were invented, right?

 

As I slowly slip into madness, I realize there is something I forgot to do. I haven’t talked to my BFF in weeks. We messaged on Facebook Wednesday, but I need to talk to someone before I lose my mind.

But I haven’t started shopping for my Thanksgiving meal yet. Oh, why is this so hard?

 

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

 

When hubby got home from work, I hide in my office where my desk displays Wonder Woman memorabilia. I’ve been a fan before Gal Gadot donned the tiara. As I admire my growing collection I think, what would Wonder Woman do in this situation?

It just got real. Somebody get me coffee, something to write with, and my golden lasso. I feel the need to write a checklist!

Golden Lasso
Where’s my lasso of truth?

 

Homeschooling through the Holidays Checklist

 

Take a break from your regular schedule

First of all, homeschooling doesn’t mean you’re chained to an insane schedule. It’s okay to take a break. You can do this by following the public school schedule or simply create your own. Check out my FREE Busy Woman 14-day printable planner.

Take a field trip

As big mama would say, there’s more than one way to skin a cat or in this case, learn. Our trip to the library resulted in a wonderful book titled Fat Chance Thanksgiving by Patricia Lakin, about a non-traditional Thanksgiving meal. If you want to teach your kids a valuable life lesson, volunteer to feed the homeless or Meals on Wheels before Thanksgiving dinner so they can learn to appreciate what they have.

Use your hands

Instead of buying pricey decorations, scour Pinterest for DIY decorations with your kids. Your kids will have fun and your inner kid will get a bang out of playing with Elmer’s Glue and glitter. Remember those handprint turkeys in first grade?

Hide from the world

You will never get it all done so stop killing yourself. And for those of you that are stubborn enough to prove me wrong, yes you probably can, but where’s the fun in perfection? For your sanity and for the sanity of those around you, take a break, a walk, a cup of tea, play Candy Crush…I prefer Designer Home on Google Play.

 

What I’ve Learned

What I learned
Lightbulb moment

In conclusion, the lesson in all of this is you don’t have to walk a tightrope to teach your kids. Your reason for homeschooling may be different from someone else’s reason, but the goal is the same. We want to spend time with our children and provide an education that they can use in their chosen fields and in their lives.

There is a timfor rules and a time for fun. Life has ebbs and flows which is why above everything else, children must know how to be flexible and to take time to appreciate the things that really matter.

How about you Mom and Dad? Do you have something that works for you to help with homeschooling during the holidays? I’d love to read and share your comments on my other social media pages.

Bonnie Harris Price

Pinterest.com/blogginTXMama

Twitter.com/workathomelady

Bonnie@adhdhomeschooled.com

 

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The Craziest Reason That Keeps You From Homeschooling

time to get off the fence moms and dads

Moms and Dads, you’re this close to homeschooling your children. You found an affordable curriculum. You’ve read praise report after praise report of parents and children who love learning from home.

But you’re still not convinced that it’s for you.

May I ask a question?

What are you waiting on?

I’ll be super honest, I wasn’t completely sold on the idea at first either. For some reason, I kept playing the scene from Mean Girls over and over in my head. Remember Lindsay Lohan’s character Cady’s voiceover about what others thought of homeschooling?

I can’t get the picture of those spacey kids in the cornfield and what the boy said about Jesus out of my head.

 

No, homeschooling doesn't looking like this
You might be homeschooled if…

I certainly didn’t want that type of experience for my son. I know the most criticized part of homeschooling is the social aspect. Society is brainwashed to believe kids can’t be productive citizens without a traditional education.

Speaking as the Queen of the Introverts, that simply isn’t true.

It’s been 28 years since I left high school. I remember feeling isolated even around my close friends at Westside High. Trying to be seen as a person and not a noun AKA nerd by the cool kids was tough.

If you read or listen to the daily news for the last 15 years or so, you know what I’m talking about.

http://www.history.com/topics/columbine-high-school-shootings

https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/politics/2017/10/24/newly-released-fbi-documents-reveal-disturbing-details-sandy-hook-shooter-adam-lanza/794585001/

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/california-shooting-rancho-tehama-elementary-school-students-hospitalized-following-deadly/

Don’t misunderstand, I know these stories have more to do with mental health, gun control, and other issues that aren’t being addressed, but I can’t help but fear the worst for public education.

A sincere prayer for public school
Pray for all kids homeschooled or not

When I graduated high school in 1989, the school had one uniformed officer. By the time my best friend’s brother graduated the following year, there were three policemen. When I returned 10 years later to get a copy of my transcript for college, my high school had a police station inside.

My son’s former elementary school has a police station too.

My reasons for disenrolling my son had nothing to do with crime, but when I turn on the TV or look at my smartphone, I feel more confident about the decision to homeschool.

Our first duty as parents is to nurture and protect our children. In today’s educational system, you have to worry about two sets of bullies. The ones in the classroom and the ones in the legislature could care less about your child’s well being.

Bullies everywhere
Bullying just isn’t for kids anymore

Even with Keith’s ADHD, taking him out of school was emotionally challenging. The first pushback I received was from my husband until he learned his son was being labeled as a bully. The other pushback I received was from my father in law.

My father in law is old school. When we asked if he would pay for online learning, he shied away from it. His explanation: the boy’s gotta learn to take orders.

While I appreciate his concern for his grandson; I know he didn’t understand how complex the situation was. I didn’t get upset; I found a way to teach my son that was affordable. What I understand is how deep certain issues run when it comes to tradition.

What got me off the fence was giving tradition, pardon my French, the middle finger. Just because something has been this way for decades doesn’t mean it’s supposed to stay that way. Show of hands, who wants to go back to using an outhouse?

 

I didn’t think so.

 

If the lack of social interaction bothers you most cities and even small towns have homeschooling co-ops. Groups of parents form co-ops to form activities like field trips and sports for homeschool kids. If you attend church, there’s Bible School or you can sign your child up for affordable classes at the YMCA.

Now that I’ve taken that tired old excuse from you, let’s get to the real reason why you won’t homeschool.

 

You’re scared of other people’s opinions!

 

There. I’ve said it so you won’t have to.

What you’re listening to them for Mom?

When I say this, please don’t take this as a criticism, but an act of kindness. I’m not calling you weak. I truly, truly, get how other people’s opinion influence what we say, think, do or even dress. It’s nothing to get angry about.

But it is time to get serious.

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, the public school system sucks. Even Bill Gates agrees and this man dropped out of Harvard! Some years ago when Oprah ruled daytime talk, he cautioned that the current systems teach values from the Industrial Revolution.

Simply put, the skills our kids learn now were good for the 1950s, but in today’s tech-driven world, they are seriously behind. Thanks to texting, Skyping, and everything else children have lost their imagination.

Imagination put a man on the moon, created computers, and taught us how to fly.

At three years old, my son told his grandmother he couldn’t ride with her until he had his belt. He held up his daddy’s belt and told grandma to put it in the car so he could go to the store with her.

We knew he meant seatbelt, but the fact is he put that together in his head. He knew grandma’s rear seatbelts didn’t work, he knew it had to be fixed, and he came up with a solution.

Let the light lead you
Do head towards the light sweetie!

Imagination at it’s best!

We could’ve sat him down and tried to explain to him why he couldn’t follow grandma. We could’ve issued a stern warning about him asking the same question over and over. We could’ve have redirected his attention to something else, but we didn’t.

Instead of wasting time trying to explain why he couldn’t do it; he figured it out.

Moms and Dads, instead of wasting time trying to please other people, figure it out. Your children need this. You’re the first teacher: do you want to raise leaders or followers?

Still on the fence? Try these tactics when you’re feeling pressured by the naysayers:

Not the mama! Not the mama! Not the mama!

It’s your child. It’s your decision how they’re going to be educated. Do you really think they would care if you were sending your kid to a pricey private school you couldn’t afford?

No. However, you may get talked about behind your back about how you can’t afford private school. Just saying.

Thanks, but no thanks

I’ve said in another one of my blogs. Opinions are like sphincter muscles, everyone has one. Where were they when your kid was up all night with colic?

Buehler, Buehler?

Miserable Like Me

Some people don’t want to change. The minute you challenge the status quo, you’re the one with the problem. Was their first response, “why you wanna do that?” or was it “Oh, I heard that’s tough, but more power to you. You can do it!”

Things that make you go hmmmm.

Real talk, homeschooling is hard. Sometimes your children don’t feel like learning. Some days you don’t feel like teaching.

But do you want to know where the real blessings are? You’re both learning together. You’re not the shadow person who signs the permission slips and show up at PTA with your foot halfway out the door because you’re ready to leave as soon as you get there. You’re the person shaping your child’s future.

I can’t think of a better excuse to homeschool!

How about you? Are you still on the fence? Were you like me? Did it take a building falling on your head to get the point? Please share your comments below.

 

How do you deal with peer pressure as an adult?

 

Bonnie Harris Price

bonnie@ADHDhomeschooled.com

Workathomelady@Twitter

blogginTXmama@Pinterest

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Terrific Ways Homeschooling Frees You from Adulting

The cool advantages of being a homeschool parent

by Bonnie Harris Price

Moms and Dads, you’re probably got this homeschooling thing down to a routine. Your children are up at a certain hour. They have their instructions. You can probably squeeze in a little afternoon delight.

Oops, TMI?

Whatever you have going on, you’re probably somewhere in between feeling accomplished and feeling overwhelmed, isolated even. During their backyard recess time, you might find yourself watching Netflix on your phone. Don’t be embarrassed; I’m guilty of sneaking a peek while pretending to watch him go down the slide for the millionth time too.

We’ve all done that.

Do you think it would be easier for you if your area had better schools? Maybe if the threat of mandated tests wasn’t looming over your head, you wouldn’t worry about your child’s grades. If only they allowed prayer in school.

Stop beating yourself up for your decision to homeschool. Homeschooling isn’t a burden, it’s a privilege to be able to teach your kids especially now with all the technology available.

But Bonnie, I miss coffee with my girlfriends, my spin class, Sunday night football, yadda, yadda, yadda.

Yes, those things are fun, but Mom and Dad, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Homeschooling frees you from adulting.

Wait, 

Oh yes, in some ways homeschooling frees you from adulting. You see, the difference between your pals who send their kiddos to school and you are you create your own universe. You are the captain, emperor, and queen and king.

That means you run the show. And not just at home either; homeschooling has adult benefits as well. Take a look-see.

  • Tax breaks
  • Household expenses
  • Healthier Lifestyle
  • Exemptions
  • Adult Pass

Tax breaks

This is a tricky one, but one you can use to your advantage if you follow the rules. While you can’t write off any money you spent buying materials and supplies for your children’s education, you can write off materials that you donate once your child outgrows them. The money you spent on books, the whiteboard, the desk, can be donated to your local charities.

You can also start a tutoring service for other homeschoolers. You can deduct the money you spend on supplies and materials while making a little cash on the side. You can also start a side business product testing on your website using your home computer as a tax deduction for business.

Moms and Dads don’t paying Uncle Sam less make you feel like a kid in a candy store?

Household expenses

Here’s another biggie for you. The amount of money you spend on gas, groceries, PTA dues, fundraisers, uniforms, expensive clothing, and other stuff goes way down when your children leave public school. Thrift stores become your best friends and your children learn to love peanut butter and jelly again.

Homeschooling also brings out the creativity in parents. Used paper towel rolls, shoestrings from old sneakers, and lima beans with a side of Elmer’s Glue make cool rainmakers. A homeschool military family I met during the summer told me they saved hundreds of dollars on family vacations because they go in the offseason.

Yay, fewer crowds! Yay, less competition. Yay, no more financing vacations on credit cards!

Healthier Lifestyle

Moms and Dads, I can’t even explain how much healthier Keith eats when he’s home. Public schools are doing are a better job of keeping unhealthy food to a minimum, but what about allergies? It’s estimated 15 million people have food allergies. 

Keith is allergic to cow’s milk and soy yet the little scamp managed to score ice cream at school. Although his allergy isn’t life-threatening, I break out in my Snoopy dance when I don’t have to fight with him about what the other kids get to eat.

Exemptions

Here’s a couple of exemptions I didn’t find out about until today. I do advise you check with your state or county first. Parents with children under age 12 in Bexar County may be exempt from jury duty.

Whooooooo-hoooooooo! Six years no jury duty!

Want a bonus, homeschool Moms, and Dads? Again check with your state, as long as my son is homeschooled, he is exempt from taking that God awful STAAR test. This standardized test has been up for debate for years and was almost dismissed in the state capital but unfortunately was kept.

I don’t know how it is in your state, but if a child fails this test, the child fails for the year. This is regardless if they’re passing their classes. Side note: this is how jails are built because children who fail are more likely to commit crimes as adults. 

Adult Pass

Me, Big Keith, Little Keith at Retama Race Park

I saved the best for last Mom and Dads. Homeschooling your children means from time to time, you get a pass. You can get silly, take a break when you need it, and be a real person.

Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t an excuse to get lazy and do whatever; you have responsibilities. The bigger picture is, you get to be creative. You don’t have to be like your stick in the mud second-grade teacher.

You can get on the trampoline with your kids at recess. You can teach them life skills they can actually use, like cooking, cleaning, simple home repair. You can make learning fun and have fun doing it.

How about you?

Are you struggling with homeschooling your child? Do you think strict routines are the only way to teach? Do you know some fun ways to keep your interested in learning? I’d love to read your comments.

I also like to read your stories. If you’re interested in sharing your homeschooling story with other readers, click on The No Judgement Zone page to send me an email. I’d love to post your story.

Until then, remember all children are created extraordinary!

Homeschool Tax Deductions, Write-offs or Credits for 2017?

http://fortune.com/2016/02/27/disney-resets-park-ticket-prices/

https://www.medicinenet.com/peanut_allergy/article.html

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Mom & Dad, homeschooling won’t ruin your kids!

I know, because I thought the same thing 

By Bonnie Harris Price 

I’m a little over a month with homeschooling my son. Everything was great at first until I realized why everything was great at first. The first few days were easy for us because his brain was fresh from what he learned the one month he was in kindergarten. 

However, the next two weeks I felt like I was ready to tear my hair out. Don’t get me wrong, I expected my son to be fidgety, lack focus, and a regular six-year-old. What I didn’t expect is how hard I would be on myself.I honestly thought I would be good at teaching. I was a good student and the teacher’s pet. I’ve worked with kids in Sunday school.

 

Heck, I graduated cum laude. I missed Magna Cum Laude by four tenths. Yes, it still bothers me to this day. 

So why am I having a hard time teaching my son? I should have this down packed right? Wrong! 

Let me be the billionth person to say teachers do not get paid enough. Next to parenting, it’s a thankless job. The 3-month vacation and extra holidays are well deserved, so leave the teachers alone. 

When it was time for Keith to learn something else, I wasn’t sure if I was doing a good job. I was frustrated, but of course, I blamed his ADHD. My methods weren’t working.  

For reading, I tried sounding out letters with him to help him learn. I blew the dust off my brain and sang songs to help him write letters. I downloaded bootleg apps to help him trace letters. 

When he wasn’t getting it, I gave up and tried again the next day. Some days were better than others, but soon I found myself worrying if I had made a mistake. My son is already on medication, but maybe I ask his doctor for something else that would make him focus so he can be in a real classroom. 

Did you ever feel that way too? 

Every day I found myself a little more anxious. I will be honest with you. A couple of time I cut learning time from one hour to 15 minutes because I didn’t feel confident he was getting what he needed. 

I belong to several home school groups on Facebook. I reached out for help, but couldn’t bring myself to tell anyone I felt like a failure. I spent hours reading posts about people who were having the same issues but couldn’t bring myself to admit I had that in common with them. 

Just yesterday, my son and I were on our way to watch budding scientists create rockets. This event takes place once a month in Schertz, Texas. My son loves cars, trains, and planes so I know this will be something he’d enjoy and maybe learn something from someone since I couldn’t. 

I know, ouch. 

Thanks to Google Maps, I was driving in circles. So not only couldn’t I teach, I couldn’t find an open field where they were launching rockets! I put the radio on to distract my son while I said some not so nice words under my breath. 

Then all of a sudden, I heard a voice say, “Mama, I see my popcorn words, I. That’s right isn’t it Mama?” 

I glanced at the display and almost peed my pants. “Yes.” I shouted, “I see another popcorn word too! Y-o-u.” 

“Y-o-u spells you!” 

“Yes, that’s right!” 

Talk about a proud mama moment. My son recognized two sight words. I did something right! 

Mom and Dad, I get it. If you’re new to homeschooling like me, it can be really frustrating when you think you don’t know what you’re doing. I was kicking myself for not being perfect and he was learning something all along. 

Mom and Dad, I want you to understand, you’re doing your very best. You’re not going to get everything right, but as long as you keep trying, your children will flourish under your teaching. 

We got into homeschooling because we want to give our children the gift of learning. Your children are wonderful individuals and deserve to be treated like people, not numbers.

Here are some helpful resources I found online to help you build on your teaching kids. 

Read this! 

 

http://thepioneerwoman.com/homeschooling/how-to-be-a-confident-homeschooling-momma-even-if-youre-not/ 

www.findingjoyinthejourney.net/gain-confidence-as-a-homeschool-mom 

http://homeschool-101.com/how-to-homeschool/ 

 

 

How about you? Do you feel like you have absolutely no clue or what you’re doing? Do you feel like you’re doing a terrible job? Please share your thoughts below in the comment section or feel free to share your story on the No Judgement Zone page.  I’d love to hear it!

 

Until then, remember all children are created extraordinary! 

Bonnie Harris Price 

bonnie@ADHDhomeschooled 

Check on my Pinterest board ADHD Homeschool Universe at Pinterest.com/dreamypoetrebel 

 

His Public School Didn’t Give A Damn About His ADHD

I may earn money or products from the companies mentioned in this post.

How I came to this epiphany

You’d think I would know better. I was an administrative assistant for Shelby County for seven years. I watched children with behavioral problems go through the revolving door called Juvenile Court.

I viewed thousands of psychological reports and typed millions of paragraphs on my IBM Selector typewriter for punishments that didn’t fit the crime. I’ve seen the police try to arrest a five-year-old for bringing a gun to school.

As a single parent to my then nine-year-old daughter, I did my best to keep her out the injustice system. A young black girl with an absentee father is a disastrous recipe for failure. I did my best to set a good example by having an education, owning my home, and going to church.

I was conditioned to believe that if you lived right, life would be fine. And for a while, it was fine. Far from perfect, but I tried to give her a good life so she wouldn’t end up where I worked.

Fast forward to 2010, I get married at 40, and shortly after I became pregnant. When most of my friends were getting ready for graduations and even grandparenting, I was starting over. I didn’t fuss too much because this time I was married and living in the great state of Texas where children still say yes and no ma’am or sir.

I thought my husband’s presence in our son’s life would exempt him from trouble even from his ADHD, but I was wrong. My son’s ADHD has wreaked havoc. Tantrums, lack of control, and limited resources have made our lives hell. Since age 3, he’s been ejected from three daycares.

Two out of three centers he attended, he hit another student and one because he was too hard to control. I can still see the daycare worker’s eyes rolling at my son when I brought him the day I was told he couldn’t come back.

Eventually, we were able to enroll him in a public school Pre-K class. For a while, it was a Godsend; I was able to relax. It didn’t last long because the behavior started again. Keith would get physical, use four-letter words, and rarely listened. Academically he excelled, but his behavior was keeping him from being his best.

He had to attend an additional year of Pre-K because Texas school law states a child has to be age 5 by September 1. My son’s birthday is on the sixteenth. I don’t know if a year really makes a difference all I knew then is I was ready for him to leave Pre-K.

I believe some of his problems are his brain works faster than most kids. Holding a kid like that back a year doesn’t do him any good, but as I was soon to find out, public education is not about what’s best for the child. Public school is about numbers.

When it was time to enter Kindergarten, Keith was a little worried because Pre-K was all he knew. He would be leaving behind his friends and teachers. He was scared and I was too because I knew his problems would follow him there.

You’re probably familiar with IEP programs if your child has ADHD or other learning disabilities. The school puts together a team made of teachers, the principal, and the guidance counselor to help your child do his best. What I was promised in that meeting is the new school is aware of his learning disability and that they would help him succeed.

 

I was wrong.

Keith’s behavior and ADHD showed up as usual. At first, dad and I were able to talk to him. The counselors and his teacher seem to be on board. However as the days went on, things became worse.

About a month into his kindergarten year,  the principal and vice principal requested a meeting. My husband has mandatory overtime on Fridays and couldn’t attend.  I mentally prepared myself because it wasn’t the first time I met with an administrator, but I wasn’t expecting the bombshell they dropped in my lap.

Keith was charged with bullying another student. 

I wish I was making this up, but I’m not. The parents of the other child filed a police report against my son for bullying. In the principal’s words, my son “targeted” this kid. In my son’s offense, he was protecting a little girl from this kid who threatened to throw a bug on her the day before.

In my son’s offense, he was protecting a little girl from this kid who threatened to throw a bug on her the day before. My son is terrified of bugs and with his ADHD, he has trouble from moving on from something that bothers or intrigues him.

I suppose I could go on a rant about the total BS of that conversation, but I won’t. I could scream bloody murder about the injustice to my son, but I won’t do that either. What I will say is this: public schools don’t give a damn about ADHD.

Think about it. If my son had a wheelchair, they would build him a ramp. If my son was deaf, they would hire an interpreter. Yet he has ADHD which is a real disability, they have nothing to offer him.

ADHD was taboo in the African-American community in the 90s. When my daughter was diagnosed, she was placed on medication. Behavioral therapy wasn’t offered at the time because it was thought all was needed was a pill. Before the Internet exploded information was scarce.

Now some 15 years later, we know more about this learning disability. While medication is helpful, therapy has worked wonders for our son that is when we can get the insurance company to pay for it. That is a topic I will address in another blog.

But back to the public school system. What or why aren’t they doing more to help children with learning disabilities? There are two federal laws on the books that are supposed to help children.

Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 does not have strict ­qualification criteria but is limited to changes in the classroom, modifi­cations in homework assignments, and taking tests in a less distracting environ­ment or allowing more time to complete tests.”

“The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act, Part B (IDEA) requires public schools to cover costs of evaluating the educational needs of the affected child and providing the needed special education services if your child qualifies because her learning is impaired by her ADHD.”

During our IEP meeting, dad and I were told that every accommodation will be made to help Keith but I feel like they failed him. We still have the paperwork on what they promised, but failed to deliver. we could get a lawyer, but we’re not those people. I’m fortunate enough to work from home and have a schedule I can work around to help get what he needs.

But what about the other parents out there? Who fights for them? Who fights for you?

I invite you to comment below or even share your story on my page. Read and sign the disclosure before submitting. We’re in this homeschool adventure together.

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/health-issues/conditions/adhd/Pages/Your-Child-At-School.aspx